9 Incredible ways to support your Pregnant Wife
I have been on both sides of the fence, having gone through an uncomfortable pregnancy as well as holding a 9-to-5 full-time job. So men of the bread-winning type, when I say I get, BELIEVE me I do. However, the joyous occasion has arrived and you’ve learned that your wife is pregnant. It is time to step it up as a husband and a preparing father. Gone are the days of rest until your adult children place you in your first nursing home. Now is the time to shine: supporting your growing wife until a miniature you graces the stage.
1.Buy her gifts:
Women love being showered with tangible affection. For generations, safe gifts have been flowers, jewelry, and chocolate goodies of the assorted type. Instead of treating the next nine months like a perpetual Valentine’s Day, step it up. Tune into your wife’s individual needs and barriers. Treat her to a day at the local spa. Pack the fridge with all of the foods that she craves at the time (with the full understanding that those cravings may not last). Instead of risking death by purchasing her clothes, send her off or accompany her to the mall for a shopping spree of her choosing. Or just let her get comfortable and buy a nice body pillow.
Be open to cuddle time and sappy flirtation. She is your wife after all and despite the ever-growing changes to her body and to her emotional state, she is still your partner in crime who is in constant need of love. On the other hand, being affectionate may also be just knowing when to back off and to give her some space. The first trimester’s estrogen rush and morning sickness spells as well as the third trimester belly expansion and will intrude on physical needs for intimacy. Exercise patience and let your wife be the deciding vote for when it is an appropriate time for spousal fun.
3.Tell her you love her:
This should go without saying, but come couples already have difficulty verbalizing their love for each other minus the pregnancy. It grows increasingly harder on the days when your wife gets snippety with you and tears your pride and personality to shreds. Instead of wasting time reading her mind and bandaging your wounds, be the first to say, “I love you” every chance you get. If your marriage is stable to begin with, then realize that most of her bitter comments are due to hormonal imbalances and you just happen to be the unfortunate target. By frequently telling her that you love and care for her will bring her back to reality during those rough interactions.
Tie her shoes:
Given my overly independent personality, I find it more loving when my husband purchases me slip-on’s rather than having him tie my shoes for me. If your wife is a hard-core, “I’m pregnant” card player, she may be very receptive and flattered if you tie her shoes. We pregnant ladies swell substantially during the third trimester, and we start to develop night terrors about falling because we can’t see our feet. Plus, our unborn child is now so bulbous that bending at the hips to touch our toes has gone from practical to a cruel joke of nature. If you already struggle with verbalizing your love for your wife, tying her shoes may be evidence enough. If you love her and respect her independence, show her this video:
This may take every ounce of willpower you can muster, seeing as you will have crappy days at work and then have to come home to a hormonal (maybe borderline certifiable) wife. Especially during the last trimester, come to realize that your wife will inevitably have a worse day than you. Even if that’s not true, she will chew your ear off with all of the irrational reasons as to why. Train yourself to have a listening ear and avoid bringing up all of the horrible inconveniences of your day. Plan and anticipate the exciting future with her. Help her pick out baby clothes and decorate the house.
6.Help her out where you can:
The key to providing help for your wife is providing opportunities for rest and for sleep. An over-worked, pregnant spouse equates to emotional outbursts and reduced cuddle time with you. Trust me when I say you will both abundantly benefit if you take over a few chores. Come home from work and expect to do the dishes or dirty laundry. Expect to care for your other children and to take them far, FAR away from the house so that your wife can get some shut-eye. Inform your wife that certain chores are to be completed by you, including any that require heavy lifting, scaling the stairs, or bending over/crawling on the floor.
7.Cook a dinner for her:
Prepare a fabulous meal for your wife. Go the extra mile and consult with her regarding her cravings and what kitchen scents are potentially bothersome. If you are particularly uncomfortable with the cooking realm, recruit a family member or a friend to assist you. Refer to the several provided cookbooks for easy, but nutritious meals. Your wife will thank you profusely for conducting any chores that will keep her off of her ever-swelling feet.
8.Reassure her that it is okay that her body is changing:
Most married men consider this to be an off-limits topic of discussion. However, ignoring your wife’s extremely vocalized comments about her body will only make it worse. Pregnancy wreaks havoc on a woman’s body, riddling it with stretch marks, facial hair, baby weight, wrinkles, and elephant-like limbs. If your wife is outwardly ranting about her physical problems, treat it as a cry for help and reassure her that everything about her pregnant body is normal. Let her know that the changes are beautiful and are a good sign that she is creating a healthy baby.
9. Give her a massage:
Note, obtain consent from your wife before you start kneading her like a French loaf. If she is nauseated or too tired, giving her a massage might tick her off. Accompany her to her monthly doctor appointments and ask her OB-GYN about the best bodily areas to massage and more importantly, the areas to avoid. If she’s far enough along, a well-intended massage could induce early labor. Here is a video of a proper massage.
These 9 ways to support your wife are only a handful of the thousands of options. Although it was hard for him to understand in the beginning of the pregnancy, my husband has become one of the most supportive men I have ever known when it came the end of my pregnancy. A healthy and happy wife equals a happy and healthy baby. I hope you enjoyed the list provided. Feel free to make some comments below and to share the article with other expecting couples.